I'm definitely all for you trusting your instincts. The fact that random coincidence of him emailing a friend of yours doesn't bode well with me. There's SO MANY people on OKCupid that it makes me think there are several other people he's been emailing. And yes, while it's a dating site and you're supposed to, I just have an issue or two with that.

Massages are the best, also. I totally got one last night, all by winning a bet.